I’ve been in one of my creative slumps again. Haven’t written any scripts, blogs, or anything in a long while. It’s partially due to a little bit of laziness on my part. I have a job now and I would rather relax than do “work” when I’m not actually working. I’ll try to get better with that soon.
However, I did want to make a blog about a really important next step in my life. If you don’t know, a few years ago I got engaged to a woman named Laura. We have a great relationship together but there has been one major factor that has been really difficult to deal with. We live in different countries. I’m in the USA and she’s in Canada (and, yes, I’ve heard every “My girlfriend who lives in Canada” joke there is). Well, after a long process of talking to lawyers and visiting political consulates, we are finally taking the next step. Today, September 2, 2017, Laura’s coming down to live with me permanently. In a few weeks, we are getting married! I’m extremely excited to be taking this big step with Laura. We even have our honeymoon all planned. (DISNEYLAND, BABY! WOOO!) And I couldn’t be happier.
Now, that’s not to say I’m not nervous. I’m nervous about what we need to do to get her an official residency here, mostly because I don’t want to screw it up and have her get deported. I’m nervous about setting up the wedding and making it nice for her and her family. But, mostly, I’m nervous about being a good husband.
I don’t doubt the strength of our relationship. The good thing about distance is that Laura and I are able to communicate really well thanks to necessity. If we’re upset, we talk about it. If we’re having a bad day, we know how to cheer each other up. I just want to make sure we’re happy together. I want to be able to give her the things she wants. I want to be able to give her new experiences. I want us both to be happy.
My mother has a good piece of advice for marriage. “You only have to worry about her happiness. Likewise, she only has to worry about yours. If you’re both working to make each other happy, the rest will fall into place.”
I’m not saying everything will always be sunshine and rainbows. We’ll have struggles to overcome. Times won’t always be happy. But we will work at it together. And that’s what’s important.